Andrew the bully

[mollydaveson@hotmail.com]

In the uplate show last night Andrew showed himself as a bully. Worse still, he waited until Aliesha started it, then he joined in. They had Jamie in tears. He is gutless wonder, and for a person who describes himself as "loyal" and "trustworty", I am glad he isn't looking after my back. If I was Hayley, there is no way that I would ever open the door to him again.

[ba.traveller]

I wonder if this is the Andrew that Haley loves and admires! I hope not because he has certainly changed since she left and not for the better.

[hawkskid9]

Originally Posted by mollydaveson@hotmail.com

In the uplate show last night Andrew showed himself as a bully. Worse still, he waited until Aliesha started it, then he joined in. They had Jamie in tears. He is gutless wonder, and for a person who describes himself as "loyal" and "trustworty", I am glad he isn't looking after my back. If I was Hayley, there is no way that I would ever open the door to him again.

Jamie started crying when they told Rebecca to go away, not because they said anything to him. Andrew is such a player but not a bully. Same with Aleisha, he only said he doesnt like jamies analysing.

[proudaussie]

Originally Posted by mollydaveson@hotmail.com

In the uplate show last night Andrew showed himself as a bully. Worse still, he waited until Aliesha started it, then he joined in. They had Jamie in tears. He is gutless wonder, and for a person who describes himself as "loyal" and "trustworty", I am glad he isn't looking after my back. If I was Hayley, there is no way that I would ever open the door to him again.

True that, Andrew is gutless scum but Hayley is just as bad as him, birds of a feather.

[I hate Miss G the Fat Ho]

I hate andrew aswell

I also hate Miss G (the fat ho)

[Schoolsux]

Telling someone your opinion isn't bullying! I mean for gods sake! Why shouldn't Aleisha and Andrew be allowed to state their opinion at the same time? Your coming down on them for telling Rebecca to but out, but if Rebecca had joined in then it would have been her and Jamie stating their opinion at the same time- do this make them both a bully?

I think you need to grow up, act more mature and realise that this wasn't bullying but stating your opinion in a respectful manner. Aleisha and Andrew were being kind to Jamie, they weren't being bullies. Jamie had been asked to stop staring at people because it made them uncomfortable, they have every right to tell him again if he continued to do so.

In fact Jamie's behaviour is making people uncomfortable and is closer to bullying than anything Andrew or Aleisha displayed that night.

[sezsta]

Speaking your mind and voicing your opinion is not bullying. However, the way that you choose to do so can take a bullying form. Aleisha and Andrew were laying in to Jamie while he was in tears and obvious distress. I was so grossed out watching it... THAT is the difference between being assertive and being a bully - knowing when to drop something...

[Schoolsux]

Originally Posted by sezsta

Speaking your mind and voicing your opinion is not bullying. However, the way that you choose to do so can take a bullying form. Aleisha and Andrew were laying in to Jamie while he was in tears and obvious distress. I was so grossed out watching it... THAT is the difference between being assertive and being a bully - knowing when to drop something...

Aleisha was rubbing his back telling him not to cry and smiling. Even when he yelled at her she shrugged it off instead of getting shitty and said it was ok. Unintentioanlly making someone distressed isn't bullying because there was never any intention for this to happen.

Bullying would have been both of them making snyde remarks towards Jamie about this, continously bringing it up after he had asked them to stop because it makes him uncomfortable; they did none of this. They brought it up one time in an assertive but polite manner and was nice to him when he was distressed.

If anything Jamie is in the wrong here for making his fellow housemates (Not just Aleisha and Andrew) uncomfortable by staring at them. I know I wouldn't like to be stared at and it would make me very uncomfortable. Many people had already asked him to stop and he continued to do so because he "reads body language." He was asked to stop and he didn't, he should have because it was making others uncomfortable.